Controversial Issues Series

Controversial Series (CS) Topic #1: FGM


Usually my blogs are relationship/friendship based, however I wanted to talk about something a little more serious and something that seems to very controversial amongst women (and others). I feel that I have been a person to not judge or bash OTHER counties with their beliefs and cultures. Every culture has a right to do as they please, but there are some point in time, where crossing the line, goes beyond CROSSING THE LINE. For those who don’t know what FGM is; it is procedure that involves partial of total removal of the external female genitalia for non-medical reasons, Female Genital Mutilation. The World Health Organizations (WHO) has offered four classifications of FGM. Type One, removal of the clitoral hood, accompanied by clitoridectomy (removal of the clitoris); Type Two, removal of the clitoris and inner labia minora (which are the two flaps on either side of the vagina); Type Three, removal of all or part of the inner and outer labia, and usually the clitoris as well, and the fusion of the wound, leaving a small hole for passage of urine and menstrual blood. Type Four, usually includes piercing of the vaginal area, or procedures that cut into the vagina to widen it, corrosive substances to tighten it. Type three is the most common in procedure in several countries.

Now that I’ve gotten all the terminology and back ground out the way…

Pretty much FGM is something a lot of countries do to children/pre-teens to “prevent” pre martial sex. This something that takes place before a girl goes through puberty. It can sometimes be done within days of their birth. As one of my favorite vloggers (ToyaBoo) said, “I’m so tired of women having to suffer (sexually and beyond) for the sake of some misogynistic rule or culture…” Which I complete agree. I am not saying whether I support premarital sex or not, because that is neither here nor there. The point is this after this procedure, I woman will NEVER feel sexual pleasure, even after they get married. Now some people will say sex is only meant to be had for the purpose of reproduction only. Which some of these countries are the same countries who allow men to have more than one wife…Which let’s be real, at that point they aren’t just having sex for reproduction. “Rule” is women are meant to be virgins until they get married. But men don’t have to be?? I mean why should women have to continuously suffer…I mean damn, we already have to carry a baby for 9 months and then have to push it out vaginally, not these women have to worry about being mutilated too?? This is bizarre to me.

Now my issue isn’t sorely men vs. women virginity, but I am thinking about the bigger picture, The HEATLH side of it. Imagine being a baby or at most a pre-teen age and having your external vaginal area being removed completely…No really, think about it…usually the process goes after to get it done the tie your legs together so you don’t take big steps, which if you did it would be very painful, as if it’s not painful enough. Imagine having to urinate…PAINFUL!! Some say the recovery never gets better. Not only are they putting you through this as a child, as an adult you must go through the reopening after you have married, so that you can now reproduce. Take a look at the video below, it’ll explain in more detail what these women go through. One woman in the video cannot have kids, which she’ll explain why…

I am not knocking other people’s beliefs, however, physically altering your child’s body so they will not have pre martial sex is absurd to me. What are thoughts and opinions on FGM?? Do you think it should be something that is done all over the world? When talked about this on my twitter (@TotalDivaRea) a few weeks ago and some said, they should start doing this in the US. What are your thoughts on that??

Please comment below and let me know what you think!!

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